Bye Bye Blayde
Today is Blayde's last day in the team. He's leaving us now. Haay...This is his farewell letter to us. He could not have said it better. I totally agree with everything he wrote here.
things I learned.
It has always been a good practice to reflect everytime there will be a big change in your life. It makes me think about the negative and positive things that happened before you decided to change. And guess what... I did not expect it but there is more good than bad if you just look deeply into it.
Let me start to the obvious ones.
1) I learned to be flexible.. not only in our schedule but in dealing with different types of people. I experienced the truth that everyone is created in a unique way. It taught me how to accept and adjust with other people. I learned not to expect and assume on what and how other would do or react in certain situations (we humans unintentionally think that everyone would think the same way we do).
Our work schedule may not be a big deal with us but try to go out for an get a job interview, you'll see how amazed other people will be when you tell them a story of your working hours, especially our team (This is an advantage).
2) I learned that I cannot please everyone but I should be in good terms with them.. It's not enough to know that your ways are not good enough or not good at all with other people.. There will always be a link between you and someone else. You dont need to look for it, you just need to open your eyes. You may not be the best of friends but you can influence each other (nde plastikan ah).
3) People are normally good. They just have survival instincts. Nobody in a normal state of mind naturally enjoys destorying someone else. Maybe when they hate someone for a particular reason. But no one would really spend time to plan in destroying someone just for pleasure... Its a waste of time. The devil is the only one who does that cause he wants some company. Don't assume that a person wants you to go down...remember that they also have emotions that are similar to yours. they also get hurt. The crab mentality thing, people doesn't really want you to go down, they just want an easier way up. You might just be on their way or just forgot about you..Two things to learn, don't be that person, In every decision and every move remember that you will always affect one or more person. You should carefully think how your gonna affect them and REALLY spend time to think about it. Humans may normally be self-centered but they also have a heart.Don't decide compulsively, rethink and rethink, there may be some decisions that affects other persons whole life. On the other hand, If you feel being destroyed, try to understand them, they may be in the same pressure from other people. Learn to give way, compromise, assess and learn how to bring it up the right way. You may fail but definitely it will train you in becoming a better person than yourself right now. This is a skill that is not leraned overnight. It needs practice but it's definitely worth it.
4) Speak the truth in love. First word: speak. just say it or it will just make your head spin or even create gossips and negative atmosphere. OF course it should be the truth, only state facts and what you know and can prove yourself, dont rely on gossips or hearsay when you speak or you might just get in trouble. In love- love is an action word. Its something you do. so its something you think about with a concious mind. Don't let your anger or hatred trigger what your gonna say.. Think first.. Release tension first and do it not only to get even but to make others improve.
You yourself may also be pressured that you can't control the way you speak butWhat's in it for you? You'll see that there's gonna be lesser stress when your with that person.
5) Don't carry the weight of the world. Don't be stressed about everything and even things that does not concern you. It's ok to feel sorry for other people and try to help them out but there are things best left in prayer. He can do greater things than you can imagine.
6) Politics is everywhere. Influencing others and keeping them on your side maybe natural in some people. Its always good to listen to other people's complain as long as you can control yourself not to be affected. In a world full of secrets and mistery it is very unfair to create conclusions without knowing the whole truth... and you may not even be successful knowing the truth. Don't take sides, just listen if you can't go away with hearsays but better not to. Most people would tend to cover their asses and even blame someone else. Just keep not just an open mind but also an open heart.
7) Teamwork. the magic of team effectiveness. Different types of people with different stiles joined together to create a symphony. how sweet.
8) Stress is everywhere. Leaders will be pressured from higher management. Just remember how to handle them. Respect your subordinates and know their limits. Of course, you should also know yours.
9) positive scripting. I don't know the exact word for it but its definitely not just a script. Its ok to be transparent and show your emotions but not to subordinates for they will always feel that you are attacking them. Going back... its not a script, It's doing the right thing. If you speak transparently with how it negatively affects you, you just satisfy yourself by expressing your emotions.. Your not building up at all. As much as we want leaders and members to be treat each other equally, there is a big difference. They have different responsibilities. Leaders should take care of their members. Any negative emotion you feel, vent it out with your co-leaders. for they will understand it without bias.There are things better left unsaid.
10) Remember that this is a source of living, not life itself. Don't let the job affect your whole life but dont also take it for granted. Remember where to draw the line. Some may be to "sinked in their job", you may be one of them, but don't expect everyone to be that way. You can't even judge that you are a better person. Remember that outside this workplace, you know little of your co-workers. You don't know about their family, you may not know that some people think they are heroes, they may even be martyrs. But to tell you the truth.. You are not born in this world to just be a worker in a certain company.. You have a greater purpose. Try to find that purpose. Or youre life is just gonna be like animals looking for ways to survive. Too pathetic for a great creature like us.
11) Sacrfice vs. Compromise
Before I started working in this company, I told myself I would only work as an engineer. I did not even took jobs as sales engineer.. I was blinded by money. or am I? After a few months, I told myself that its ok not to work in my field. Its going to be a sacrifice on my part since with a higher salary, I can give more to mission in the church, give more to my family and of course myself.
What I forgot is that I also sacrificed my time to be physically in the mission. Time to spend with my family is minimal. I then stopped and thought for a while.
Until I realized the difference of sacrifice and compromise.
Examples are families who have one of their parents work abroad to earn a higher salary. They would say that they sacrifice being without their family to give them a brighter future. Its true that its hard to be in the middle or above middle class in our contry but is it really the wealth that counts. I know a lot of people, some of them are even my friends, who are in the middle and some in the lower middle class who has a remarkable family. Parents are together, they have some budget difficulties sometimes but when you enter their household, you'll feel the loving family atmosphere. Its not always about the money.
I realized that they did not sacrifice. They may accept it or not but they dide not really sacrificed. They just compromised living together and raising their children together with living a comfortable life apart. And the truth is, in the longer run, life of your children is incomplete growing without the role model of a mom and dad. Im not saying that its totally wrong to aim for your families brighter future. Its just that the future is better when your together.
True sacrifice is doing something without getting anything in return, not even fame.
Since I just compromised and did not really sacrificed. Its time to compare what I'm giving off to what I'm receiving. It is a risk resigning from a high paying job knowing that I'm gonna end up starting over. But I can't stop what my heart really wants. So.. enough with my compromises. I should be who I really am.
I might have not have been a very good testimony to everyone but I'm glad to be with you all.
Do your best in every way. Set your heart on things above.
THANK YOU PO SA INYONG LAHAT.
I'm thankful to have met each and everyone of you. you have all been a blessing.
salamat.
Leaders, hope you grow more and may help other agents to grow. Your not just working for yourself now but for others. Be a servant-leader.
now signing off,
Blayde almariego.
THIS IS WHAT I DID IN MY LAST SHIFT. HEHEHE
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things I learned.
It has always been a good practice to reflect everytime there will be a big change in your life. It makes me think about the negative and positive things that happened before you decided to change. And guess what... I did not expect it but there is more good than bad if you just look deeply into it.
Let me start to the obvious ones.
1) I learned to be flexible.. not only in our schedule but in dealing with different types of people. I experienced the truth that everyone is created in a unique way. It taught me how to accept and adjust with other people. I learned not to expect and assume on what and how other would do or react in certain situations (we humans unintentionally think that everyone would think the same way we do).
Our work schedule may not be a big deal with us but try to go out for an get a job interview, you'll see how amazed other people will be when you tell them a story of your working hours, especially our team (This is an advantage).
2) I learned that I cannot please everyone but I should be in good terms with them.. It's not enough to know that your ways are not good enough or not good at all with other people.. There will always be a link between you and someone else. You dont need to look for it, you just need to open your eyes. You may not be the best of friends but you can influence each other (nde plastikan ah).
3) People are normally good. They just have survival instincts. Nobody in a normal state of mind naturally enjoys destorying someone else. Maybe when they hate someone for a particular reason. But no one would really spend time to plan in destroying someone just for pleasure... Its a waste of time. The devil is the only one who does that cause he wants some company. Don't assume that a person wants you to go down...remember that they also have emotions that are similar to yours. they also get hurt. The crab mentality thing, people doesn't really want you to go down, they just want an easier way up. You might just be on their way or just forgot about you..Two things to learn, don't be that person, In every decision and every move remember that you will always affect one or more person. You should carefully think how your gonna affect them and REALLY spend time to think about it. Humans may normally be self-centered but they also have a heart.Don't decide compulsively, rethink and rethink, there may be some decisions that affects other persons whole life. On the other hand, If you feel being destroyed, try to understand them, they may be in the same pressure from other people. Learn to give way, compromise, assess and learn how to bring it up the right way. You may fail but definitely it will train you in becoming a better person than yourself right now. This is a skill that is not leraned overnight. It needs practice but it's definitely worth it.
4) Speak the truth in love. First word: speak. just say it or it will just make your head spin or even create gossips and negative atmosphere. OF course it should be the truth, only state facts and what you know and can prove yourself, dont rely on gossips or hearsay when you speak or you might just get in trouble. In love- love is an action word. Its something you do. so its something you think about with a concious mind. Don't let your anger or hatred trigger what your gonna say.. Think first.. Release tension first and do it not only to get even but to make others improve.
You yourself may also be pressured that you can't control the way you speak butWhat's in it for you? You'll see that there's gonna be lesser stress when your with that person.
5) Don't carry the weight of the world. Don't be stressed about everything and even things that does not concern you. It's ok to feel sorry for other people and try to help them out but there are things best left in prayer. He can do greater things than you can imagine.
6) Politics is everywhere. Influencing others and keeping them on your side maybe natural in some people. Its always good to listen to other people's complain as long as you can control yourself not to be affected. In a world full of secrets and mistery it is very unfair to create conclusions without knowing the whole truth... and you may not even be successful knowing the truth. Don't take sides, just listen if you can't go away with hearsays but better not to. Most people would tend to cover their asses and even blame someone else. Just keep not just an open mind but also an open heart.
7) Teamwork. the magic of team effectiveness. Different types of people with different stiles joined together to create a symphony. how sweet.
8) Stress is everywhere. Leaders will be pressured from higher management. Just remember how to handle them. Respect your subordinates and know their limits. Of course, you should also know yours.
9) positive scripting. I don't know the exact word for it but its definitely not just a script. Its ok to be transparent and show your emotions but not to subordinates for they will always feel that you are attacking them. Going back... its not a script, It's doing the right thing. If you speak transparently with how it negatively affects you, you just satisfy yourself by expressing your emotions.. Your not building up at all. As much as we want leaders and members to be treat each other equally, there is a big difference. They have different responsibilities. Leaders should take care of their members. Any negative emotion you feel, vent it out with your co-leaders. for they will understand it without bias.There are things better left unsaid.
10) Remember that this is a source of living, not life itself. Don't let the job affect your whole life but dont also take it for granted. Remember where to draw the line. Some may be to "sinked in their job", you may be one of them, but don't expect everyone to be that way. You can't even judge that you are a better person. Remember that outside this workplace, you know little of your co-workers. You don't know about their family, you may not know that some people think they are heroes, they may even be martyrs. But to tell you the truth.. You are not born in this world to just be a worker in a certain company.. You have a greater purpose. Try to find that purpose. Or youre life is just gonna be like animals looking for ways to survive. Too pathetic for a great creature like us.
11) Sacrfice vs. Compromise
Before I started working in this company, I told myself I would only work as an engineer. I did not even took jobs as sales engineer.. I was blinded by money. or am I? After a few months, I told myself that its ok not to work in my field. Its going to be a sacrifice on my part since with a higher salary, I can give more to mission in the church, give more to my family and of course myself.
What I forgot is that I also sacrificed my time to be physically in the mission. Time to spend with my family is minimal. I then stopped and thought for a while.
Until I realized the difference of sacrifice and compromise.
Examples are families who have one of their parents work abroad to earn a higher salary. They would say that they sacrifice being without their family to give them a brighter future. Its true that its hard to be in the middle or above middle class in our contry but is it really the wealth that counts. I know a lot of people, some of them are even my friends, who are in the middle and some in the lower middle class who has a remarkable family. Parents are together, they have some budget difficulties sometimes but when you enter their household, you'll feel the loving family atmosphere. Its not always about the money.
I realized that they did not sacrifice. They may accept it or not but they dide not really sacrificed. They just compromised living together and raising their children together with living a comfortable life apart. And the truth is, in the longer run, life of your children is incomplete growing without the role model of a mom and dad. Im not saying that its totally wrong to aim for your families brighter future. Its just that the future is better when your together.
True sacrifice is doing something without getting anything in return, not even fame.
Since I just compromised and did not really sacrificed. Its time to compare what I'm giving off to what I'm receiving. It is a risk resigning from a high paying job knowing that I'm gonna end up starting over. But I can't stop what my heart really wants. So.. enough with my compromises. I should be who I really am.
I might have not have been a very good testimony to everyone but I'm glad to be with you all.
Do your best in every way. Set your heart on things above.
THANK YOU PO SA INYONG LAHAT.
I'm thankful to have met each and everyone of you. you have all been a blessing.
salamat.
Leaders, hope you grow more and may help other agents to grow. Your not just working for yourself now but for others. Be a servant-leader.
now signing off,
Blayde almariego.
THIS IS WHAT I DID IN MY LAST SHIFT. HEHEHE
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nalimutan ko to...
dagdag ko lang.
critic-One who tends to make harsh or carping judgments; a faultfinder
A critic with this meaning is not a gift but a curse. Some people has this wrong perception that being a critic makes a person a good judge of talent and/or character. And what kind of talent are they looking for? A true judge of talent sees a person's potential, doesn't deal much with their faults and weaknesses for they know they can help these people to grow. Faultfinding is not a talent, it's normal to see a spot of dirt in a white hanky and immediately say that it's dirty. What about the 98% of clean whit hanky? Don't ever say that you have gifted eyes. The true skill is knowing how to control it. Knowing how to say what's needed and whats not. Thinking of ways to build up rather than put down. Again, it is a skill, some may seem gifted with this but it's just because they grew up with people who have a good soul. It's never too late. I know an old grumpy man who learned this and practiced it the last 15 years of his life. And please don't wait for that before you do it coz it just doesn't destroy yourself but others too. And besides, being a faultfinder seem more to be like being an insecure person.
paalam uli..
kelan ba matutuloy to?
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